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Im really having a hard time understanding my sister.

Her Boyfriend is a drug addict (Crystal meth/Crack), abusive, threatens to kill her (Our Mom, and me), Smashing and destroying all her property (Computer, Car, Clothes etc) Calls her over 100 times a day. All her friends don’t

Me and my mom are so fed up. If she dosent listen to him he will come and humiliate all of us infront of our neighboors at 3:00am.
Of course we will call the cops but my sister will get so upset and lash out on us? I know my sister is using drugs with him. She barely comes home unless her boyfriend is beating her and she needs a place to stay. She comes home bruised up.

My mom was really heartbroken and dissapointed. So we got an restraining order against him. My sister also got an restraining order against him too. BUT is currently still living with him.

I tried talking to my sister and i just dont understand why she would be with a man who will harm her?

She said: I hate him so much, i hate that i love him. I dont even know why i love him? but i can’t live without him, i don’t know what to do.

Do you think it’s the drugs talking? Is it the sex? Is my sister some how attracted to this abuse?

Please guys, serious and helpful comments only please. Im seriously begging for help here.
I am 25 years old and had a baby in 2007 with a man I was in a relationship for 3 years. My babys daddy was really abusive while I was pregnant, before and after. He did ****** up **** like chased me around with a tazer, and controlled everything in my life. I don’t want any haters to ask me what the hell I was thinking. It’s really un explainable. My mom was in an abusive relationship and I used to always tell her I had no sympathy for her because she was the one who chose to be in that relationship and could have gotten out of it sooner than she did. I never understood until I was in one myself. It’s unexplainable. It’s not that I didn’t think I didn’t deserve someone better I just was scared to leave, scared he would find me, kill me, start my parents house on fire or do numerous things he had threatened on a daily basis. When I called the police on him it really didn’t do any good. It was ridiculous what the police called “help.” Sure they helped me press charges and they pressed charges but nothing good came from any of it and it only made my life more difficult.
Anyway, I ended up leaving him when he got physical infront of our daughter for the first time and her and I went to a shelter for 3 months and then I had resources from being in the shelter and they helped me get into a program that paid a partal amount of my rent so I could afford to have a place for my daughter and I. I never kept her from him, we worked out a custody agreement….he is a good dad when we are not together but a terrible dad when we are together because of the way he treats me infront of her. My daughter does not need to experience that, witness that or be in the middle of the abuse. It was 50/50 custody and it toally sucked for the first few months because I couldn’t stand not having my 1 and a half year old daughter with me all the time, but I got used to it because I had no choice and I wasn’t going to get back with him just so I could have her everyday. She was better off sharing custody with her parents than witnessing an abusive relationship.
I was apart from him for 8 months and then I had 4 girls jump me at my apartment complex (one of them was supposed to be my best friend), they decided to jump me over the stupidest thing ever….. I had a new boyfriend and wasnt hanging out with her as often as before and she was upset about it and wouldn’t compromise her time for me spending time with my new boyfriend. Well when I got into this fight the cops were called by a neighbor and we all got tickets because we were all fighting even though they started it and I was just defending myself. Im not going to let 4 girls jump me without a fight, of course I was going to defend myself and fight back. Because we all got tickets we all got kicked out of our apartments and out of the government program we were in. I was terrified with where I would go. I have no family. My mom and dad live in a different state along with most of my family except the ones I refuse to live with because they are meth addicts or do not have a good living condition that I would want to bring my daughter into.
I was going to go live with a friend for a few months while she tried to help me figure out how I could live in my own apartment with my daughter but Steve saw this as his way back in (I didn’t think about that at that time but I realize this now) so he begged for me back, cried and pleaded, said he didn’t want to loose me and that he had changed, and that he would go to anger management classes. This went on for weeks of him sincerely asking for me to give him another chance. I stupidly did beaing nieve and thinking that maybe I could give it one more chance.
Everything was great for 3 months, we didn’t argue, he respected me and talked with me when problems arose instead of arguing or attacking me or making me feel like I was stupid or something was my fault. He went over finances with me, spent time with us and just was the perfect guy…prince charming…..everything I had always hoped I could have with my baby’s daddy. I love him and want to grow old together and have a bigger family. Everything was perfect.
For the last 2 months he has slowly been getting worse, arguing with me over any small disagreement, yelling at me infront of our daughter, not calling me to check in after 10 hours of being gone. Im not his probation officer but I think it is just respectful to check in with your family to let them know how your day is going, when you may be expected to come home, just common respect in my eyes. I show him that respect and he expects it, almost demands it but yet he doesn’t give me the same respect. We don’t talk like best friends anymore, we don’t laugh together, have conversations, go out on dates, I feel like when we talk it is business. Like he will day things like “hey do you know where this is, can you find it for me? Hey can you goo
google this for me?” It’s like when we talk it is just on business type terms not normal loving conversations.Anyway, he got physical with me infront of my daughter over the stupidest thing last night. I asked him if my daughter and I could go up to my grandparents for a couple of hours on Christmas because my parents are coming out out for christmas. He blew up saying he isn’t allowed up there so no and to shut my mouth about the topic. Well here comes another bad part about this situation… He is my moms brother and he raped me. I was nutral about abortion, he didnt believe in abortion and neither did my family after we spent a thousand dollars on genetic testing to see if our baby would be deformed. My daughter is amazing, healty and totally up to the level she should be at in all developmental aspects…..thank god. Well, this is why he is not allowed at my parents, my dad hates him to death and has every reason to. I need help, any resourses you guys might have to help me, thank

I am 25 years old and had a baby in 2007 with a man I was in a relationship for 3 years. My babys daddy was really abusive while I was pregnant, before and after. He did fucked up shit like chased me around with a tazer, and controlled everything in my life. I don’t want any haters to ask me what the hell I was thinking. It’s really un explainable. My mom was in an abusive relationship and I used to always tell her I had no sympathy for her because she was the one who chose to be in that relationship and could have gotten out of it sooner than she did. I never understood until I was in one myself. It’s unexplainable. It’s not that I didn’t think I didn’t deserve someone better I just was scared to leave, scared he would find me, kill me, start my parents house on fire or do numerous things he had threatened on a daily basis. When I called the police on him it really didn’t do any good. It was ridiculous what the police called “help.” Sure they helped me press charges and they pressed charges but nothing good came from any of it and it only made my life more difficult.
Anyway, I ended up leaving him when he got physical infront of our daughter for the first time and her and I went to a shelter for 3 months and then I had resources from being in the shelter and they helped me get into a program that paid a partal amount of my rent so I could afford to have a place for my daughter and I. I never kept her from him, we worked out a custody agreement….he is a good dad when we are not together but a terrible dad when we are together because of the way he treats me infront of her. My daughter does not need to experience that, witness that or be in the middle of the abuse. It was 50/50 custody and it toally sucked for the first few months because I couldn’t stand not having my 1 and a half year old daughter with me all the time, but I got used to it because I had no choice and I wasn’t going to get back with him just so I could have her everyday. She was better off sharing custody with her parents than witnessing an abusive relationship.
I was apart from him for 8 months and then I had 4 girls jump me at my apartment complex (one of them was supposed to be my best friend), they decided to jump me over the stupidest thing ever….. I had a new boyfriend and wasnt hanging out with her as often as before and she was upset about it and wouldn’t compromise her time for me spending time with my new boyfriend. Well when I got into this fight the cops were called by a neighbor and we all got tickets because we were all fighting even though they started it and I was just defending myself. Im not going to let 4 girls jump me without a fight, of course I was going to defend myself and fight back. Because we all got tickets we all got kicked out of our apartments and out of the government program we were in. I was terrified with where I would go. I have no family. My mom and dad live in a different state along with most of my family except the ones I refuse to live with because they are meth addicts or do not have a good living condition that I would want to bring my daughter into.
I was going to go live with a friend for a few months while she tried to help me figure out how I could live in my own apartment with my daughter but Steve saw this as his way back in (I didn’t think about that at that time but I realize this now) so he begged for me back, cried and pleaded, said he didn’t want to loose me and that he had changed, and that he would go to anger management classes. This went on for weeks of him sincerely asking for me to give him another chance. I stupidly did beaing nieve and thinking that maybe I could give it one more chance.
Everything was great for 3 months, we didn’t argue, he respected me and talked with me when problems arose instead of arguing or attacking me or making me feel like I was stupid or something was my fault. He went over finances with me, spent time with us and just was the perfect guy…prince charming…..everything I had always hoped I could have with my baby’s daddy. I love him and want to grow old together and have a bigger family. Everything was perfect.
For the last 2 months he has slowly been getting worse, arguing with me over any small disagreement, yelling at me infront of our daughter, not calling me to check in after 10 hours of being gone. Im not his probation officer but I think it is just respectful to check in with your family to let them know how your day is going, when you may be expected to come home, just common respect in my eyes. I show him that respect and he expects it, almost demands it but yet he doesn’t give me the same respect. We don’t talk like best friends anymore, we don’t laugh together, have conversations, go out on dates, I feel like when we talk it is business. Like he will day things like “hey do you know where this is, can you find it for me? Hey can you google this for me?” It’s like when we talk it is just on business type terms not normal loving
sorry guys, yahoo answers cut off the rest of the story. Hey dumb ass, my question was in the topic!!! I need help to find resources to get out of an abusive relationship. You sound just as abusive as my boyfriend.Anyway what yahoo answers cut off was this: last night he got physical with me infront of my daughter because I asked him if I can take my daughter up to my parents house for a couple of hours on christmas. My daughter saw it all, n because of this I CANNOT be in this relationship but I was wondering if anyone knew any resources in colorado that I could have help me other than a shelter. I fear that a shelter wouldn’t be good for my daughter, at her age she will be affected by it so I was wanting to see if anyone else had any ideas for me for where else I can go. I cannot fly out of state with her to my parents because of the custody agreement.I could get in a lot of trouble leaving the state with her. Leaving the state is not an option

My father has an addiction to alcohol. This addiction is really beginning to erode our relationship. My friends and I are vaccillating between being frozen in fear and fearing the consequences.

How do I go about helping in this situation? I work near Quinebaug, Connecticut.

Any and all assist would be appreciated.

consequences.

My boyfriend and I are both 20, we’ve been together for 3 yrs now….and i just recently started drinking alcohol. I don’t get drunk, i’ve never been drunk, but just like getting a cool buzz. He used to get drunk a while ago- but not ALL the time, just a few times. But…his older bro was addicted to Meth for a couple of years, and was into all kinds of bad things/drugs/alochol abuse for the past 5 yrs, and just got clean. Their father used to get drunk and hit their mom, not sure how much it was, but any is enough abuse. NOW as of present, everyone in the family is clean-no one drinks or does drugs, and everyone is HAPPY. So since i just started to drink CONTROLLABLY, he gets mad and says no. I’m not the type of person to let people or bf’s tell me what to do, so i don’t like him telling me..”don’t drink, i don’t like it”…..he just admitted to me today that he doesn’t like me to drink because of what’s happend in his past. WHAT’s going on? EXPLAIN?

Or other drug use?

Many people in history who are considered geniuses, were also alcoholics or drug users. So what do you think?