Question by hello g: You have all been annoyed with me repeating the question about my neighbor…?
I will list the question below IN CASE you haven’t read it yet. Anyway, him and I had a conversation last night – he is a recovering alcoholic (1 year) and drug addict (11 years clean). I asked him if he’s ever had a sober relationship and he told me he has NOT. He has NEVER had a sober relationship in his life (and he’s 41). Could this be why he hasn’t made a move? Could this be why he acts akward? Because he doesn’t know how to make a move, sober. What are your thoughts?
Here’s the question I asked previously:
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I live in a very small neighborhood and have a very large crush on my neighbor. He’s 41, I’m 28 – we’re both single. I’ve lived in my cabin for 4 months, he’s lived in his for 11 years. I’m almost positive that he’s feelin me, too – but neither of us are making any kind of moves. Maybe it’s because we’re neighbors? I don’t know. But it’s driving me crazy. I don’t know what to do?
He recently came down with pneumonia. He called me last Sunday night 20 minutes after I got home and asked me to bring him some medicine. I ended up taking care of him most of the night and all through the week. He was just so adorable being sick. I made him soup, helped clean, washed his dog, took his temperature, rented him movies… He’s finally (as of last night) starting to feel better. The chemistry we have when it’s him and I alone, is insane. We look at each other in the eyes and you can just tell something is there. There is no denying it. (And I recently graduated from the NANNY to his dog to the AUNTIE – his dog is the most important thing in his life). We live EVERY close to one another and he’ll call me on the phone and we’ll talk for an hour while we’re both in bed – he’ll make comments such as, “Are you naked right now?” And it’s all kind of jokingly, but I think a part of him is really curious.. It’s pretty funny because I open my window and there’s his house – yet we still talk on the phone? When he comes home from work every day, he’ll walk straight over to my house without even going home first. EVERY DAY.
A part of me thinks he may just be a nice guy that wants to be friends but I have to think deeper into that because he almost has a jealous streak when it comes to me and the relationship I have with another male neighbor. He also tells me that we should make the other neighbors think something is going on with us..
Why has he not made a move? MEN – do you honestly think I should make a move or keep things how they are and see what happens? Be real with me please!
The other “MAN” is an old guy with 4 kids that lives across the street. My “crush” knows 100% that I am not into him. I have made that perfectly clear. He’s a very strange man.
Question by Mike: serious question about drug abuse?
hi im 15 almost 16 years old and a sophomore in high school. my mother has been addicted to drugs for years now, even thoguh they are prescription, fioricet, ambien cr, xanax, etc, she has massive amounts of 100′s in her cabinet and last night she couldnt walk it took her 10 or 15 minutes to get up the stairs and she was slurring her speech. my father is aware, but she seriously needs help. i was terrified and deff knew she oded, or took a lil to many. idk how to live she always has mood swings, and its been so bad. im so stressed and im trying to do good in school at the same time.
i jsut cant sleep at night thinking about this and my brother was once a street addict he has been clean for 2 years! so thats the only good news. i dont know what to do. and im hurting so badly. i have withdrawn from my friends at school tyring to help her and its gotten me nowhere.
Best answer:
Answer by Nini I am so sorry to hear this. addiction is a very serious psychological problem. did you ever think about getting her help. like sending her to rehab. i know that sounds extrem. but if its really that bad then thats what u have to do. the thing with addicts, they need to be whiling to change, if not…they wont! some might have to hit rock bottom before they finally realize what they are do to themselves and their family. try and get your family together and have a heart to heart conversation with her. maybe something is really bothering her thats making her do this.
take care.
I hope for the best for you& your family.
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Dissociation or a split in awareness is an experience commonly associated with
hypnotic induction
amphetamine intoxication
schizophrenia
withdrawal symptoms
relaxation training
The reduction in the body’s response to a drug which may accompany drug use is called
withdrawal.
addiction.
dependence.
tolerance
aphasia
According to psychodynamic psychologists, the unconscious
processes information of which you are unaware
includes unacceptable feelings, wishes, and thoughts
is characterized by a loss of responsiveness to the environment
is synonymous with the preconscious
develops after the ego and superego
After her bridal shower, a young woman dreamed that she was dining with her parents when a young guy grabbed her wallet containing her driver’s license, credit cards, cash, and family pictures. She awoke in a cold sweat. After discussing the dream with a friend, she realized that she felt anxious about losing her identity in her approaching marriage. The explanation of her dream represents the
manifest content
latent content
ego
activation-synthesis theory
cognitive analysis
Drugs with names like Xanax, Halcion, and Valium are
opiate
stimulant
hallucinogen
tranquilizer
alcohol based
Of the following, which does you hypothalamus regulate over the course of 24 hours? I. body temperature, II. Hormonal levels, III. Memory of the day’s events.
I only
II only
III only
I and II only
I, II, and III
Which of the following is a circadian rhythm?
The ebb and flow of an individual’s emotions during a 24-hour period
Jet lag experienced after an airline flight from Los Angeles to Tokyo
A cycle of biological functioning that lasts about 25 hours
The series of four stages that people go through during a normal night’s sleep
The systematic alternation between alpha waves and delta waves during sleep
Nicotine is classified as a
barbituate
stimulant
hallucinogen
tranquilizer
depressant
Perhaps the best known hallucinogen is
alcohol
cocaine
heroin
LSD
nicotine
Alcohol is classified as a
depressant
stimulant
hallucinogen
barbiturate
opiate
“Humans developed a unique waking-sleep cycle that maximized our chances of survival,” is a statement most typical of
developmental psychologists
physiological psychologists
psychoanalysts
sociologists
evolutionary psychologists
Which of the following is most likely to occur as a consequence of hypnosis?
increase in strength to superhuman levels
loss of bodily and mental control
genuine regression to earlier age levels
altered sensory experiences
increased clarity and accuracy of memory
Zen Buddhists and others practicing meditation are better able than most other people to stimulate their
sympathetic nervous systems
parasympathetic nervous systems
somatic nervous systems
salivation
urination
Of the following, which psychoactive drugs shares the most similar effects on the brain?
alcohol-marijuana
caffeine-morphine
nicotine-heroin
amphetamines-cocaine
barbiturates-LSD
REM sleep, generally an “active” state of sleep, is accompanied by which of the following paradoxes?
Slowed heart rate
Slowed respiration rate
Lowered blood pressure
Paralyzed muscle tone
Reduced eye movements
Which of the following will NOT increase behavioral and mental activity?
Cocaine
Caffeine
Benzedrine
Amphetamines
Barbiturates
Nightmares most frequently occur during
stage 1
stage 2
stage 3
stage 4
REM
Which stage of sleep typically has spindles?
REM
1
2
3
4
During paradoxical sleep, muscles seem paralyzed and
eyes dart about in various directions
breathing is slow and shallow
night terrors are likely
sleepwalking occurs
the sleeper is easily awakened
Night terrors most often occur during
Stage 1
Stage 2
Stage 3
Stage 4
REM
Hypnosis:
is characterized by brain wave patterns similar to sleep
is an altered state characterized by narrowed attention and increased openness to suggestion.
is a sleep state in which the subjects are partially aware of their actions and able to perform many activities not normally carried out during sleep
is considered by most scientists as a trance-like state where hypnotists have complete control over individuals
was introduced by the Austrian physician, Karl Zener
When a person is shut off from the world such that he or she cannot even tell what time it is by light or dark, their sleep-waking cycle
stays at about 24 hours.
shortens to an average of about 20 hours.
lengthens to an average of about 25 hours.
becomes completely disrupted
shortens to 12 hours
As you are reading this question, you are probably not thinking about what you ate for lunch. The memory of what you ate for lunch is most likely in your
nonconscious
preconscious
unconsciousness
sensory memory
attention
Which stage of sleep is characterized by brain waves with spindles and K-complexes?
stage 1
stage 2
stage 3
stage 4
REM
A person who has trouble getting to sleep is said to suffer from
narcolepsy
sleep apnea
insomnia
somnambulism
night terrors
Hypnosis is best characterized as a state that
gives the hypnotist complete control over the thoughts and emotions of the person undergoing hypnosi
induces heightened suggestibility in the hypnotized individual
is similar to the condition produced by excessive alcohol consumption
is similar to obsessive-compulsive disorder
is similar to the REM stage of sleep
The chief characteristic of hypnosis is
heightened arousal
increased suggestibility
enhanced creativity
increased awareness
increased clairvoyance
According to Freud, dreams are very often a means of
wish fulfillment.
solving daytime problems.
telling oneself what’s missing in one’s life.
categorizing one’s experience
organizing random neural brain activity
Freud believed that, in order to protect sleep and prevent the arousal of conscience, the content of our dreams is
suppressed
disguised
enriched
synthesized
fixated
Research suggests that the two most basic states of sleep are
alpha sleep and beta sleep.
light sleep and deep sleep.
alpha and delta sleep
REM sleep and non-REM sleep.
REM sleep and paradoxical sleep
A sudden, irresistible urge to sleep, which lasts a few minutes to half an hour during the daytime, is called
narcolepsy
hypersomnia
sleep apnea
sleepwalking disorder
insomnia
Physical cravings for a drug and unpleasant reactions when the drug is withheld are signs of
drug tolerance
psychological dependence
emotional dependence
physical addiction
mental dissociation
In small quantities, alcohol can be mistaken for a stimulant because it
inhibits control of emotions
stimulates the sympathetic nervous system
speeds up respiration and heart beat
induces sleep
affects the cerebellum
Which has enabled psychologist to learn the most about sleep processes over the last 50 years?
psychopharmacology
lesions
EEGs
CT scans
MRI
A family member of mine has cirrhosis of the liver due to no fault of her own (never being an alcohol drinker, I mean). She is in the hospital now and the doctors say she most likely won’t last another couple of days. She has been in the hospital this time for almost 2 weeks and for the last 5 days now, the doctors will not give her anything to eat or drink. She is in and out of consciousness and when she wakes up, she mumbles that she is hungry. All the doctors will do is take a swab of water and wipe the inside of her mouth with it. They say that they need to keep her dehydrated so that when she starts to pass away, it will be less painful for her. And she can’t eat anything because they’re scared she could choke on it or it could end up in her lungs. They say that dying from this disease is a horrible way to die and they are trying to make it a little easier on her. I just don’t understand how they can say that starving her for 5 days is making anything any easier on her. The poor woman wakes up from her “sleep” and the first thing she says is that she’s hungry and they give her another shot and she goes back to sleep. This just doesn’t seem right to me. If anyone knows someone who has gone through this or is a doctor that knows anything on this I would greatly appreciate it.
my mom’s mom had cirrhosis i think in her late 30′s..im 32 and drink a healthy ammount of alcohol..or unhealthy depending on the amount of time i spend at the bars on the weekends, or if im drinking a bottle of wine at home on occasion..2/3 times a week perhaps….am i to get cirrhosis too?..is it hereditary or due to the amount of alcohol a one consumes..apparantly she was quite an alchi…and i think ive a handle on m;y drinking as it doesnt really affect my job; child raising…
I am NOT endorsing recreational drug abuse. I think it is a waste of a life to be an addict. I just think if you are an addict or if you are young and want to experiment, you are going to get the drug so easily. Shouldn’t it be a safer product that benefits someone other than gangs and international drug growers and terrorists and smugglers?
Parents need to take responsibility for their kids and teach them the dangers of drugs just like with alcohol, trans fat, crossing the street, etc. We need to STOP believing that just because there are laws against drugs, our kids can’t get them.
Lets face it: school age kids can NOW get their hands on illegal drugs easier than cigarettes. If kids want to experiment with drugs, they can get them no so easy. I’d rather trust the pharmacist at Rite-aid to say no to my kid then the drug pusher or gang banger.
Tax money could be directed to high risk kids and free treatment! Drug Dealers & Gang Bangers put instantly out of business!
Wow- So many people in agreement. (or at least not in disagreement). I’m a little suprised. I kind of expected to be flamed by at least half. And some really thoughtful answers. I’ll be hard to pick a best answer here.
My brother took crystal meth a day ago and he go into trouble with the cops and now he’s back at home but he cant stay still how can we get this out of his system.
My sister’s boyfriend was arrested Thursday night and charged with 3rd degree domestic violence (for hitting her), child abuse (because her daughter witnessed the incident) and assault. He is up for a bail hearing on Wednesday (because of the holiday) and I would like to know if there is a way we, as my sister’s family, could get him to remain in jail until his court date in August because he is a meth addict, a danger to my sister and her daughter. My sister doesn’t want him to stay in jail and wants to get the restraining order lifted so this guy can come back home to her, she doesn’t believe he is a threat but acknowledges he is in meth and pot. Can I get a lawyer or should I contact the arresting officier and try to see how it would be possible for this guy to be kept in jail (or have a $10,000 or so bond that no one could afford to bail him out) or would anything I even do help?
I’m considering a career in substance abuse education, treatment, and prevention. I have just recently seen an episode on meth addicts and it basically painted a bleak picture for them. Some that are recovering or “rehabilitated” still fight the urges to go back to their habits on a daily basis and my question is this: even in this day and age with drug rehab clinics and focused attention on drug addiction is there really an effective program for those suffering? I don’t know anyone personally who has suffered just curious about this.
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