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Question by amber: How do I help a recovering alcoholic cope with miscarriage?
My friend (who I’ve known for 17 years) is a newly recovering alcoholic just miscarried today and I want to make sure that I do everything I can to keep her from hitting the bottle again…Does anyone have any advice??? Any help is appreciated. Thank you.

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Answer by twobbeana
All you can do is be there for her and support her but yet give her the space she needs when she needs it. I am currently going through a miscarriage myself and have known it was gonna happen for over a week now. You have good days and you have bad days and you have times where you just want to be alone to grieve and think. Just be the best friend you can be and reassure her that it was for the best the baby could have come out with serious birth defects, or she could;ve carried much farther and had the baby pass. Miscarriage is a very hard thing to deal with. I wish your friend much luck in going through this.

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