Drug Rehabilitation that works

by pix.plz

Question by hello g: You have all been annoyed with me repeating the question about my neighbor…?
I will list the question below IN CASE you haven’t read it yet. Anyway, him and I had a conversation last night – he is a recovering alcoholic (1 year) and drug addict (11 years clean). I asked him if he’s ever had a sober relationship and he told me he has NOT. He has NEVER had a sober relationship in his life (and he’s 41). Could this be why he hasn’t made a move? Could this be why he acts akward? Because he doesn’t know how to make a move, sober. What are your thoughts?

Here’s the question I asked previously:
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I live in a very small neighborhood and have a very large crush on my neighbor. He’s 41, I’m 28 – we’re both single. I’ve lived in my cabin for 4 months, he’s lived in his for 11 years. I’m almost positive that he’s feelin me, too – but neither of us are making any kind of moves. Maybe it’s because we’re neighbors? I don’t know. But it’s driving me crazy. I don’t know what to do?

He recently came down with pneumonia. He called me last Sunday night 20 minutes after I got home and asked me to bring him some medicine. I ended up taking care of him most of the night and all through the week. He was just so adorable being sick. I made him soup, helped clean, washed his dog, took his temperature, rented him movies… He’s finally (as of last night) starting to feel better. The chemistry we have when it’s him and I alone, is insane. We look at each other in the eyes and you can just tell something is there. There is no denying it. (And I recently graduated from the NANNY to his dog to the AUNTIE – his dog is the most important thing in his life). We live EVERY close to one another and he’ll call me on the phone and we’ll talk for an hour while we’re both in bed – he’ll make comments such as, “Are you naked right now?” And it’s all kind of jokingly, but I think a part of him is really curious.. It’s pretty funny because I open my window and there’s his house – yet we still talk on the phone? When he comes home from work every day, he’ll walk straight over to my house without even going home first. EVERY DAY.

A part of me thinks he may just be a nice guy that wants to be friends but I have to think deeper into that because he almost has a jealous streak when it comes to me and the relationship I have with another male neighbor. He also tells me that we should make the other neighbors think something is going on with us..

Why has he not made a move? MEN – do you honestly think I should make a move or keep things how they are and see what happens? Be real with me please!

The other “MAN” is an old guy with 4 kids that lives across the street. My “crush” knows 100% that I am not into him. I have made that perfectly clear. He’s a very strange man.

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Answer by poke
please shorten your question

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by inger klekacz

Question by : I did meth for 6 years. I have been sober for 4 years. Why do I have trouble with my feelings?
I don’t get happy any more. I cry easily. I have no emotions. I don’t have the same interest in things any more.

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Answer by Jessi
sounds like a typical case of depression. go to your family doctor.look on the bright side you are beautiful , and i am sure you have a family that loves you.

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Question by chibigenesis: Are you required to notify all current or future employers if you’ve been in drug rehab?
If you’ve been in a drug rehabilitation program, and successfully completed it, do you have to notify any potential employers? Do you have to notify a current employer if you’re going into a rehab program?

I assume the laws are differen in every state, but specifically in Illinois or california? If anyone knows a website that would tell me all this i’d really appreciate it.

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Answer by James
Only if they ask on the application.

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Question by DJ J.B.: How many people are REAL RAVERS and have been for 7 years or more and likes being sober at raves?
The reason i’m asking is cause well i’ve been in the rave scene since i was 13 and now i’m a DJ and all these things but i use to do the drugs hardcore. Now i think its stupid to do drugs but i still have an awsome time at raves especially now when i’m dj’ing at them. What do you guys think. Let me know

DJ J.B.

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Answer by Jason H
I don’t know any ravers, real or fake. Raves must be extremely exclusive and underground, because I’ve never even heard about one, and I’ve been friends with some pretty hard-core users. I mean, I know they exist.. I’ve just never heard of one.

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by Flyinace2000

Question by dj: Has anyone been sober for five plus years, relapsed and sobered up again and how long were you back out?
I got sober in 1995 after 20 years of drinking and drugging . Live was wonderful, then it got too wonderful, I got married, and as my counselors put it made may wife my higher power, it dindnt last, I got off my program, stareted smoking weed and eventually bak to full fledged active alcholism and drug additction. I’ve been divorced three years now, about the same length of time I’ve been using again. I need some hope. The second time around dont seem to be going to well

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Answer by livedlike_superman
find one goal, one idea that really has your focus and passion. drive towards that end.

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Question by sarah d: One of my sisters has been an alcoholic/drug addict for years. She’s known for blaming all her problems on..?
anyone other than herself, and is very unappreciative when people help her. she had been clean from alcohol and drugs for about 6 months and was getting along with everyone in the family, but she’s drinknig again for over a year. She also has serious anger issues.
I hadn’t seen her for 11 years, and didn’t care to, I had seen her abuse her kids, tell my mother she didn’t care if my mother lived or died (as my mother cried uncontrolllably) wihtout batting an eyelash. When she is upset, though, she’ll cry and cry and say how nobody helps her…
She ‘s 6 years older than me, she’s almost 40 now and is still blaming her drug addiction on how she was treated by our family…she mostly blames it all on our mother b/c my mother wan’t there for her.
She also lost all 5 of her kids b/c she was a crystal meth addict.
My mother has sent her over 1000 dollars over the past few years to help her with rent, etc. My mother also sent her baby cribs, strollers, etc., over the past 8 years when she gave birth to her kids (100s of miles away from my mother).My sister never thanked my mother for any of this.
My mother works FT…she’s in her 70s, she’s worked hard all her life, most of the time as a single mother. she had 7 kids, and has struggled for years. She also had health issues over the years, while working FT,. as a single mother. About 10 years ago, she was finally in a good financial situation (b/c she got a good-paying job and low income housing) , after living in poverty for decades. She never misses a day of work, is never late.
My question is, should my mother feel obligated to visit my sister when she is in the area where my sister lives? (they’re about a 2 hour drive from eachother). My mother visits the area about once every 2 years…My sister has never made the dirve to visit my mother.
My sister freaked out (yelling and screaming) when she found out my mother was in the area recently and didn’t visit her….
I just want to know outside opinions…should my mother make an effort to see my sister, her daughter, when she’s in the area, since they haven’t seen eachother for 2 years….?
Or does all the stuff i mentioned above give my mother reason not to visit her daughter?
P.S. A couple months ago, b/f my mother’s visit, my sister called my mother up, drunk, yelling at her for being a really bad mother.

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Answer by composer4life15
mmm sounds a bit of a problem, and your sister does seem to have a few problems of her own, and that is the reason why I think your mother and yourself for that matter should see her, as although your sister does seem to be having problems she needs your help, and family can help people. Surely, your sister can be rational enough to have a calm conversation with you and your mum, what you need to do is sit her down and talk how you feel, say that you want to help and to do that that she needs to co operate and respect you and your mum, and then you’ll respect her.
If she won’t listen to that calmly, then maybe it is for the best for you two, to part ways, make sure she understands that you do care about her, but her attitude towards you isn’t fair and is upsetting you and your mum, and if she doesn’t cooperate and change then she can’t be part of your new family. Make sure she understands that and then let her decide.
Hope this helps
Hope things get better with your sister
Luv composer4life
xx

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Question by bossymom32: If you have been a drug addict,what are the chances of you staying clean for the rest of your life?100% 50%0%?
I am asking about drug addicts from 30 years and up. Because I understand teenagers try things and then quit,but 30 and up keep using or relaspes many times

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Answer by Snicker_Doodle8
There are way too many variables to estimate an answer to that question…it’s too broad.

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by kartooner

Question by andy: i am a recovering drug addict. i have been clean for few years.?
i was lucky to keep my family through it all. the reality of what i have done to my family is very hard on me. will i ever feel like i didn’t let the world down,and that im not a loser. regrets,regrets,regrets

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Answer by 2-24-08
WTG to you I am very proud of you. Now that you are clean and sober your family is twice as proud of you. Try not to let it get to you live in the present and not in the past. Way to go to you again!

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by g.bremer

Question by Skye C: I am a recovered drug addict. I have been clean for 4 years. I want to be a bigger part of my child’s life.?
My child is being raised by her father and step-mother since 2003. I have limited visitation because at the time I had a criminal history and a messed up life. In 2005 my boyfriend and I got in a fight and I hit him in the face with a coffee can causing substantial injury. He called the police and I was charged with a class A misdemeanor and given 15 months probation which I completed. I have been drug and alcohol free since the time of the incident. And my boyfriend and I are happily married. I now want to file for a motion to modify visitation because I want my daughter and I to be a bigger part of each other’s lives. I feel I can contribute in positive ways to her life now. Will the incident that happened 4 years ago prevent me from being successful with this? Thanks in advance for any help you can give me.

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Answer by Queen of Beer
Since so much time has passed, you should certainly try. You have been clean for quite a while, I don’t see what judge wouldn’t give you at the very least supervised visits.

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by Kinderdorf Haluaghat

Question by paulj0557-vacuum cleaner expert: Can a person who gets drug tested regularly, but has been clean 5 years get a”dirty” from quitting smoking?
Let me explain.
I smoked for maybe a year before I started getting caught up in drugs.Can any ‘remnants’ trapped in the tar(?)if this is possible become ‘dislodged and get in my bloodstream? I did almost anything and everything, but the ultimate drugs I became addicted to were snorted at first, for a few months, but then I became a needle user.
This all ended when I finally was able to break free and get clean. It was a rough hull, my family and friends had not totally given up on me(at least in my mind) since I did not depend on them for my habit financially. If any of you reading this are into drugs now remember that your family does love you even if they are cutting you off emotionally-the fact is because you are doing drugs, you are cutting them off. Ask any of them and I assure you they would rather have your ‘old self’ back then to see you happy in your own mind and on drugs. Think about it.
Okay, here I said I didn’t want any preaching, and here I’m doing it. Sorry.

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Answer by djfunkygrrl
If you tested clean while smoking; I’m not sure why you would assume doing the reverse would cause a dirty test?
In my opinion, the answer is no you will not get a dirty test from quiting smoking. BUT.. if you use a ‘Nicotine Patch’ or other medical drug device, you should let them know BEFORE being tested, just in case

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