Drug Rehabilitation that works

by kartooner

Question by tinkibear21: Any advice about drug addicted fiance?
My fiance is a drug addict and has been for six years. He does not have emotional support from his family and he has no friends. I am the only person he truly cares about and his mother has told me that he has gotten much better since he met me. Unfortunately he still uses. He suffers from depression and Borderline Personality disorder also. Some days he calls rehabs and attempts to do things to get better and others he is negative about his life and future. He uses drugs to compensate for his “sickness” when in reality the drugs are his ultimate sickness. He has to go to jail soon and will be there for at least five months. I’m scared that he will get better while there, but go back to using when he gets out. I don’t know what I should do for him. Please do not say leave him because it will never happen. He is my best friend and I would give my life if only he could get clean, Also please do not suggest 12-step meetings because he is not religious. Can anyone give me some advice?

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Answer by milton b
Plan on a long engagement. If you marry him he will turn your life into a living hell. My guess is that he has a fairly serious mental illness and the drugs are self-medication. Thinking that your love is going to change him is delusion, he is in a self reinforcing circle of depression and addiction that will be almost impossible to break. Since you seem determined to continue this relationship the only real advice I can give you is to not trust him. He will steal from you without hesitation to finance his drug habit and there is absolutely nothing to be gained by allowing this to happen.

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by Rmaddock

Question by David J: I sober for a week after being an alcoholic for a couple of years. Any advice?
I’m sober and my body feels pretty good. I have more focus also. However, I’m kinda in a rut and a little depressed. Don’t really know what to do with myself. Any experienced recovering people out there with helpful advice, or words of inspiration?

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Answer by virginia_maryland
Exercise is better than any anti-depressant medication. Trust me, there are multiple studies.

I try to keep busy… what matters is being occupied, not so much what I’m occupied with.

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First off… giving some back ground on this. I am 21, my step teens are boy 16, girl 15. Before settling down with my Hubby and before getting pregnant with my now 2 year old daughter, I was addicted to crystal meth.
So, I am not judging nor am I a virgin to drug abuse.
There mother is very difficult and believes that letting them cry and say there are sorry about using drugs is solving the problem. I would feel a little easier if this wasn’t the second time. We have them every other weekend, sleeping over and spending two days with us. ( I am not aposted to more time with them, since I feel like they don’t get what they need with their mother.)
I am just so lost… what exactly should (we) do. Granted, Hubby should be taking more of this on since I am just the “step-mom” and we are so close in age. They are good kids, talented, loveable, and charming. I don’t hold it against them by any means. P.S. I feel like it threatens my soberity as well. Your thoughts?

I broke up with my ex in June, since he has quit his job, became homeless and a meth addict. I have a restraining order against him since he attacked me, however he never showed up for his arraignment and now has a warrant out for his arrest. I also learned he stole guns from his friends and left one of them at a meth house – he is wanted for questioning for that. He has made several threats to me and last night my 3 year old told me “Mama, Daddy’s gonna kill you because you’re a whore”. My neighbor saw him in my yard a couple of times last week in the middle of the night. I’m terrified every night and can barely sleep. He no longer has a right to see his son since his Mother decided to involve CPS to try to make me look bad but it backfired. I just don’t know how to keep it together and move on with my life.

having a hard time handling life and motherhood and I feel I’m dragging my loved ones down with me. In the last 8+ years I have been employed quite a few times and haven’t held a single one. I started drinking when I was young and alcoholism and my choices have caused a great deal of problems and worry. I have 2 DUI’s and have 6 months left of probation but worry about paying anything. I have become a loser. My credit is so bad and I don’t have a single penny to even get Anything put in my name. I’m trying to keep pressing on. I have gone to numerous detoxes and most recently successfully completed 8 1/2 months in residential treatment facility. My daughter was 3 months when I entered. I am still sober but it’s not easy. I almost fatally shot myself in July of 2006 and tear my family up with my problems. I want to be alive and be happy and healthy but I’m having a hard time building a ladder to crawl out of this hole. No job, no money, no license. I want to go to school. I want to contribute. I need to fight harder. I’m stuck. Jails, institutions and near death. I know you can’t answer this for me but can I pull out of this and be the person I know in my heart I’m meant to be?