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Question by Jeremiah: Drug addicted EX wants me back?
My EX GF Leslie who is a drug addict wants me back. We were together for a couple of years and she was using during our entire relationship. She even got me to use because she didn’t want to be alone.I soon became addicted as well. Our relationship became all about drugs then about love or us. I OD when were both high out of our minds and she didn’t even bother to call 911. A neighbor luckily did it. She told me she was so sorry and she would have did it but she was too high to realize anything. We agreed to stop using and entered rehab. I got clean and have been ever since. She quickly relapsed and we broke up for good. It’s been 5 years but i ran into her at a friend’s house obviously high telling me she misses me and wants me back. I still love her but i am a recovering addict and i feel if we got back together i would most likely use again. It’s hard enough to still want to use everyday but finding the courage and strength not to use. Should i take her back or not?

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Answer by Vbonics
You answered your own question. If she’s still using, then it will not work. You’ll just be setting yourself up for trouble. Just move on from her, even though it’s hard. It’s the right thing to do.

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Question by queenmeow16: I don’t know how to get through to my drug addicted husband?
When my husband was a child he grew up in a home filled with drugs. All kinds. His mother’s and step father’s drug of choice was speed/meth. His step father was abusive to my husband until the step father was caught hurting my husband ( who was o became only 13) and the step father was arrested. He used to find his mother’s drugs and pipes and flush them or break them, but eventually he became curious and tried himself. He became addicted. He was taken away from his mother at 15 and placed with his aunt. He became clean. We have been going out for years as teens. When we hit 20 we married. We had one baby girl and at that point he got a job that was graveyard shift. He fell back into drugs. He said it was due to stress and feeling that he needed to be able to stay up to work. I am a person who has lived a somewhat sheltered life, never done any drugs or drank or even had a cigarette so i didn’t see the subtle clues he was using again. I never thought he’d go back. When I did realize what was happening i left him and said he had to chose what life he wanted. Drugs or our family in one home. He quit. We moved away from his mom who still uses. I later had another baby, this time a boy. Soon after I caught him red handed using. This time i said he has to do more than promise me it wouldn’t happen again. I asked him to do out patient rehab and marriage counseling. As part of the rehab he cannot drink or do any drugs. He has slipped and drank 3 nights in less than 2 weeks. The meeting scheduled today he told me he was leaving to there but he went to his moms instead. I called his council er and found out he skipped class he admitted he went to his moms but swears he didn’t do anything but hang out. I don’t know what to do. I love him, he seems to want to stop, but weak willed, hes the father of my children. i asked him to leave for the night but what do i do next?

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Answer by scoutma53
I’m sorry, I don’t see any way out of this except that you leave him. You can’t have the children exposed to this day in day out. It will be hard but better in the long run. His own family is obviously no help at all.

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Question by valpogal: How can I get medical insurance for my adult daughter who is addicted to Suboxzone or treatment for it?
She began taking her husband’s pain medication while he was dying from testicular cancer and became addicted to opiates. That was the only way she could cope with the barrage of bill collectors, his pain and their 3 children. After he died, she lost their home, insurance, their cars, everything and now lives with me. Suboxzone is a doctor prescribed treatment for opiate addiction but she is addicted to the treatment! She is in bed every day until 5-6 PM, doesn’t have bowel movements or periods, weighs 90 lbs.and eats almost nothing. If I could get a judge to make her a dependent or my ward, I could get her insurance through my work. I cannot afford to send her to Hazelden or another drug rehab. Please don’t tell me to turn to God. I need legal advice or a rehab grant. I am also supporting my other daughter and her 3 children. Anyone reading this who has a clue on how to save my daughter please respond. Time is running out for her.

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Answer by l_anderson26
You can’t do anything until she is ready noone can force/plead/bully/cry or “make them see” she has to see it for herself. I know that’s not the answer that you want but i know it from experience to be true. She has to see this for herself as much as it hurts you and you might want to get some help for yourself until that happens.

You can’t give an addict sleep medication!?!?!?! Take her to a Doctor do not give her any medications that you “think” she should be on!!!!! or that anyone on here suggest that you use.

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Question by tinkibear21: Any advice about drug addicted fiance?
My fiance is a drug addict and has been for six years. He does not have emotional support from his family and he has no friends. I am the only person he truly cares about and his mother has told me that he has gotten much better since he met me. Unfortunately he still uses. He suffers from depression and Borderline Personality disorder also. Some days he calls rehabs and attempts to do things to get better and others he is negative about his life and future. He uses drugs to compensate for his “sickness” when in reality the drugs are his ultimate sickness. He has to go to jail soon and will be there for at least five months. I’m scared that he will get better while there, but go back to using when he gets out. I don’t know what I should do for him. Please do not say leave him because it will never happen. He is my best friend and I would give my life if only he could get clean, Also please do not suggest 12-step meetings because he is not religious. Can anyone give me some advice?

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Answer by milton b
Plan on a long engagement. If you marry him he will turn your life into a living hell. My guess is that he has a fairly serious mental illness and the drugs are self-medication. Thinking that your love is going to change him is delusion, he is in a self reinforcing circle of depression and addiction that will be almost impossible to break. Since you seem determined to continue this relationship the only real advice I can give you is to not trust him. He will steal from you without hesitation to finance his drug habit and there is absolutely nothing to be gained by allowing this to happen.

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Question by tinkibear21: Problems with drug addicted fiance?
My fiance is a drug addict and has been for six years. He does not have emotional support from his family and he has no friends. I am the only person he truly cares about and his mother has told me that he has gotten much better since he met me. Unfortunately he still uses. He suffers from depression and Borderline Personality disorder also. Some days he calls rehabs and attempts to do things to get better and others he is negative about his life and future. He uses drugs to compensate for his “sickness” when in reality the drugs are his ultimate sickness. He has to go to jail soon and will be there for at least five months. I’m scared that he will get better while there, but go back to using when he gets out. I don’t know what I should do for him. Please do not say leave him because it will never happen. He is my best friend and I would give my life if only he could get clean, Also please do not suggest 12-step meetings because he is not religious. Can anyone give me some advice?

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Answer by Bret
Just don’t have kids. They will probably be more messed up than you two are…

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