pregnant & need help understanding my bf’s mentality. He is a recovered drug addict sober X 2 yrs. Seem selfis?
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Question by its Mrs. Dingleberry to you: pregnant & need help understanding my bf’s mentality. He is a recovered drug addict sober X 2 yrs. Seem selfis?
I am so frustrated!!!
I have a bf that is a recovered drug addict and has a criminal past but has done mucho to turn his life around!! I love him. When we met we just “clicked”. There is a discrepancy in our education and incomes (I am the higher paid half) but this makes NO dif to me. I am not a former addict. I work in the medical field and my knowledge and understanding comes from books and individuals I interact with.
The hitch is we are expecting a baby (unexpectedly) but have really warmed to the idea. I have other children and my family has not been unsupportive of this, but is not jumping up and down. We have gotten in numerous fights recently because I am “asking too much of him”. and I AM leaning on him heavily for support due to the situation. But he gets pissed off at me when I get my feelings hurt when he chooses his AA friends or his sponsor over me. He tells me I can never understand why its so important for him to be so selfish because if he’s not then he won’t stay sober. (and sometimes I feel jealous towards these people because its like they have some damn secret club that I can’t be included in)
Good grief!! Of course I don’t want him to change in his sobriety for me! and NO, I’m not an addict, so I can’t claim to “understand”. I want US to be happy…
Can anyone help? Please?
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Answer by stephens love
Yeah and tell him he will NEVER understand what it is like to be pregnant so be a little more sympathetic to your situation since you have been so understanding of his.
My ex was a drug addict…though not recovering…and was a complete selfish a hole. The best thing I ever did was get rid of him.
Good luck and congrats on the baby.
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It does seem like he’s being rather selfish, but maybe there is a larger issue at the heart of it. Maybe the pressure of having a child really is putting a strain on his sobriety. Have you been attending Al Anon? It might help you to talk to, and listen to, other people who are in your situation.