First off… giving some back ground on this. I am 21, my step teens are boy 16, girl 15. Before settling down with my Hubby and before getting pregnant with my now 2 year old daughter, I was addicted to crystal meth.
So, I am not judging nor am I a virgin to drug abuse.
There mother is very difficult and believes that letting them cry and say there are sorry about using drugs is solving the problem. I would feel a little easier if this wasn’t the second time. We have them every other weekend, sleeping over and spending two days with us. ( I am not aposted to more time with them, since I feel like they don’t get what they need with their mother.)
I am just so lost… what exactly should (we) do. Granted, Hubby should be taking more of this on since I am just the “step-mom” and we are so close in age. They are good kids, talented, loveable, and charming. I don’t hold it against them by any means. P.S. I feel like it threatens my soberity as well. Your thoughts?
First of all, good for you for battling a drug addiction. I’ve been there and know how hard it is.
I think that in this situation, your husband needs to step up and have an intervention. These kids need to be in some kind of program or counseling. I’ve seen this with so many kids…..They don’t fully understand what they are doing, and they are not going to stop until they someone is dead or in jail.
I think it is up to your husband to make this step, although I commend you for stepping up and showing concern. But you have GOT to stop this before it takes something serious to get them to stop.
In my case, I watched a good friend die and another friend go to prison, and a 30 day stay in county jail to get me to stop. Something has got to be done, before this happens to one of these children.
Good luck to you.
that is good that u dont use meth nemore. i havent done drugs but my best friends new thing is niacin (i guess its 2 get the other drugs out of ur system but niacin has sent many ppl to the e.r.) u should talk 2 ur husband about talking 2 the mother of the teens.
Just be honest with them… And be a good step-mom… be someone they can come to with problems n if they ever need help or make a mistake, make sure they know they can turn to you.
I’m 17… When I was 16 I got really into drugs… I smoked weed every day (and still do often), I did meth, speed, pcp, mushrooms, extacy, primo, hash, and I think thats it… But I did those all within a 3 month period. I continued smoking weed and then during the spring (17yrs old) I tried cocaine at a party… I got addicted to it quickly, and I did it every day all day… After a few months I was left broke and feeling horrible all the time… So I quit. And then in late summer I did extacy again at a few parties and found out my friends older sister smokes meth with all their roommates. So I started going over when my friend wasnt there and getting high with her sister. Now her sister is one of my best friends and I bus for an hour each way to her house n get high every day. Its like november now and I’m so addicted… It’s not fun and its not worth it… Seriously, I know you know what I’m talking about, so tell them the truth, tell them bout the horrible crap that comes along with drugs… If you really let them understand, they wont touch anything beyond weed.
I grew up with a drug addicted mom from the age of 9 until now, drugs are nothing new to me either, quitting however is… Its bad to start, so stop them before they do…